Being cheated on is rough. When it happens, you’re not sure you’ll ever be able to be happy ever again. How can you find happiness when you don’t trust anyone?
Now, this isn’t an article about why men cheat – we all know women cheat as well. I’ve been cheated on in different ways, not necessarily from a romantic relationship – whether it was a man or woman.
In my mid-twenties, I was dating this guy I felt I had a connection with. I went away for work for a couple of weeks and felt something was off in our phone calls. I knew what happened.
A couple of days later, he called me to tell me he slept with someone.
I remember going over what happened, wondering if I made a mistake by going on the work trip, debating if there was something I could have done. It wasn’t like our relationship was lacking intimacy, so why did he do it?
I decided not to get back with him and move on. It was hard. I wasn’t sure if I was going to meet someone I could trust, someone I wanted to be vulnerable with again.
But I did.
If you’ve decided to move on from your partner, it’s time to allow yourself to heal and find happiness again. Here are some helpful tips to get started.
Now, you’ve probably run the event through your head a million times, wondering if they cheated on you because the marriage lacks intimacy or you weren’t attentive enough.
It has nothing to do with you not being good enough or if the relationship lacks intimacy. Rather, this person cheated on you because they either didn’t communicate their needs sufficiently or lack a part of themselves they don’t know how to fill.
Their inability to express and communicate their needs or fill a void has nothing to do with you. They would have struggled with this whether it was you as their partner or someone else.
You may have had a gut feeling that something wasn’t right but convinced yourself otherwise.
It’s important you define what cheating is to you and stand by that definition.
By knowing your definition of cheating, you can enter a new relationship knowing what you’re looking for from your partner.
Yes, you were cheated on, but that doesn’t mean your future is over.
If there’s one thing I emphasize in my relationship writing, your future is in your hands. All you need to do is focus on it.
While this may be hard, it’s important to start looking at your future and planning it without this person.
When someone cheats on you, it triggers a whole slew of insecurities to bubble to the surface.
However, the people who have your back and support you are the ones you should be spending time with.
They’re the people who know your strengths and understand how to help you heal and get back to the old you.
Even when your support system surrounds you, you can still feel lonely.
But getting out there and meeting new people (platonically or romantically) is a part of the healing process.
It’s important not to stunt yourself from moving on. Just because your partner cheated on you doesn’t mean everyone else will betray you.
It’s easy to build up walls after being betrayed; however, push yourself to meet new people and let them get to meet the real you.
When someone betrays you, it feels like your world is crashing down. However, you can heal and find happiness in your life again.
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So, if you’re reading this, there’s a chance that you’re not feeling good about your relationship. If you’re asking yourself, is my relationship toxic? It’s time to know the signs. Here are the signs of a toxic relationship.
You’ve met someone that you’re sure is the one. Now, I’m not going to tell you you’re wrong. I don’t even know you! But here’s the thing, are they really the one? Here’s how to know if you met the one.
Rather than asking are rough patches in a relationship normal, what you should be asking yourself is what’s causing them and how to overcome those rough patches.
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