3 Signs Your Ex Secretly Wants You Back

You want to know if your ex secretly wants you back? Here are the signs to look out for.

Ah yes, the old “look who’s come around.” I think it’s safe to say, most of us have experienced the return of an ex. 

Some of us wanted it to happen and other times, our ex coming back was a real nightmare. 

But then there are those moments when we don’t really know what’s going on – are they’re trying to get back with you or not? It’s not so clear. 

Now, I’m going to tell you the 3 signs your ex secretly wants you back. But let’s be honest, the best way to find out is to ask them.

Yes, I know it’s awkward and you may be scared to hear the answer, but do you honestly enjoy wasting your time thinking about what’s going on in their head? Don’t you have friends to see? Places to go? Tasty food to eat? I thought so. 

So why waste your time? That said, if you’re feeling a little insecure (happens to all of us), you may want that extra support by looking at these signs. I get it. 

I’m going to tell you though, you already know the answer. These signs may help confirm your initial thoughts or make you even more confused.

So, before reading the signs, take a step back and listen to what your gut is telling you. Then, self-reflect after reading the signs – is your answer different?

Either way, if your ex is taking up space in your mind, talk to them about it. 

So, let’s get to it. Here are the 3 signs your ex secretly wants you back. 

The 3 Signs Your Ex Secretly Wants You Back

You want to know if your ex secretly wants you back? Here are the signs to look out for. 

#1 They never really left

What can I say? They never really moved on. They like and comment on your social media posts, they’re still in touch with your parents, and they still have some things at your place. 

Nothing about this sounds like they’ve moved on. And that’s because they haven’t. 

Maybe you’re in a relationship right now or busy with school, but either way, they’re sitting on the sideline, waiting for the right moment to swoop in. 

#2 They constantly reach out

Like I said before, they never really moved on. 

Your ex is constantly finding ways to communicate with you. They’ll text you a random memory from your relationship, “oh I just saw this teddy bear at the mall and thought of that one Valentine’s day when we rented that Airbnb.”

Ah yes, bringing up the good ol’ times, I see. 

You’ll get drunk texts from them, either spilling their heart or completely incoherent. You know the saying, “a drunk man’s words are a sober man’s thoughts.”

Whatever the case may be, they always seem to be connected to you. They’re never far away. 

#3 They drop subtle hints

They’ll ask if you’re dating or make comments on the mistakes they made in your relationship. They’ll mention their relationship just ended or post cringey subliminal messages on social media. 

They’re dropping the hints, you just may not be paying attention to them. Start to take notice to their actions and words – what is your ex trying to suggest to you? 

What do you want?

Okay, so you know the 3 signs your ex secretly wants you back. Great. But this isn’t about them now. It’s about you. 

Now, a lot of people will tell you not to get back with your ex. Listen, I don’t know your relationship. I’m not going to tell you to do anything. But, I will remind you of something before you make any decision.

What do you want? Are you interested in getting back together because they want you? Or do you genuinely see a future with your ex?

Before jumping into things, think about your past relationship with them. Why did you breakup? Who is your ex? How will things be different this time? Have you worked on your issues? Have they worked on their issues?

These are questions you need to think about to make the best decision for yourself. It doesn’t matter if they want to be with you. What matters is if this is in your best interest. If not, walk away. Sure, it’ll sting them, but they’ll move on. We all move on. 

In dating writing, we love to talk about signs. Whether it’s the 3 signs your ex secretly wants you back or 20 signs he’s the one.

While these signs may help you gain clarity, remember that you know the answer. You just need to self-reflect and be honest with what your body is telling you. 


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