” Crazy-busy is a great armor, it’s a great way for numbing. What a lot of us do is that we stay so busy, and so out in front of our life, that the truth of how we’re feeling and what we really need can’t catch up with us. “
– Brené Brown
We need to talk about this because today, our world is all about “hustling” and working 24/7 to achieve our financial goals. And while there’s nothing wrong with working and being busy, we tend to prioritize what’s important in our life based on what we believe has value.
And I’m not here to judge, I’m plenty guilty of doing this. Let’s say I take on a bunch of project for work and I label it as first priority, pushing aside the other aspects of my life like family, intimacy, etc.
But we all know the saying, “if you want to do something, you’ll do it. And it’s true. If you want something, you’ll work on it.
Yet, for many of us, we say to ourselves, “okay, I want to have sex with my partner, but I’m so busy that there’s no time in the day.” That’s a lie. I’m not saying you’re evil, but you’re full of shit.
It’s time for you to stop and think about what you value in your life, beyond the “hustle.”
While a dollar bill looks good for any of us, you pay a serious price when you don’t know when to say NO.
What are your priorities? Is it your family? Friends? Partner? Having sex? Working?
Who are the people who fill your life with love and pleasure?
What are the things in life that bring you internal peace and solitude?
They seem like easy questions to answer, but when you reflect on your life, are you investing your time into those values? Are you intimate with your partner? Do you see your friends or spend time with your children?
While you may think you know your priorities, take a second to see how you live your life – does it match?
Clear up your priorities and make an active decision to live by them.
As a self-help writer, I’m always talking about the importance of saying no.
Listen, I’ll be honest, it took me years to be comfortable saying no – and until today, I sometimes struggle with it. Saying no isn’t easy.
However, if you’re putting your work in front of your values, for example, family, friends, and partner, you’re going to have serious relationship issues – and you probably already do. It’s time to stop saying yes to everyone and put your values and needs first.
This is the time to change your ways and live authentically.
If you want to clear up your relationship problems and start living an authentic life, you need to choose to change now.
You know what your priorities are, so start living by them. Don’t say you’re going to do it tomorrow, do it now.
If you live by your priorities, you’ll get what you want and live a life that brings you happiness.
We’re all busy. We all need to work to make a living and no one is judging anyone on that. But you should make time for the things you value in life because then, at the end of the day, there will be no “I should have” or “If only I…”. It’s time to live authentically.
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