The 5 Red Flags in Long-Distance Relationships

You’ve found the love of your life; the only problem is they live on the other side of the world. Sigh. Why does love have to be so hard? But you didn’t throw in the towel and give up. Instead, you and your partner decided to fight for your relationship and make things work—no matter much distance is between you two. How sweet. 

While you’re in a long-distance relationship (LDR), you’re not next to your partner. In other words, you don’t really know what’s going on. This doesn’t mean you need to freak out and start stalking them—trust is crucial in your relationship.

But naturally, there are some red flags that you need to be aware of. All relationships, regardless of the distance, need to have the basic foundation of trust, values, and communication. 

While you may have your occasional doubts (who doesn’t?), there are some signs that huge red flags. It’s time you learned which signs they are. 

They’re less available

I hate to say it, but this is a big one. 

Of course, there are always exceptions. If they got a new job or started school, their schedule has changed and it’s going to take some time to adjust. 

But if nothing has changed in their life and they’ve suddenly slowed down contact, there’s a reason to be concerned. 

Communication is essential for any relationship, but especially for long-distance ones.  If they’re less available and you feel a shift, don’t be afraid to approach them and see what’s up. 

They miss your dates

Phone and Skype dates are those little gems we people in LDRs wait for. It’s the moment where they get to talk with their partner.

Your phone and Skype dates were never missed; you’d both make an effort to talk to each other as much as possible. But now, things have changed.

Your partner misses your Skype dates and doesn’t really have a reason why. Well, they have a reason; they’re just not telling you.

You’re making future plans without them

Before, you would make plans for the future with your partner. It was all about you and them. All the trips revolved around reuniting.

But now, when you’re planning your future, they come as a second thought. Now, this doesn’t mean they’re doing something bad; it could also be that you two are growing apart. If your partner was someone you wanted to be with, then you would see them in your future. 

They’re flirting a little too much online

You’re not someone who stalks their partner’s online activity, but you have been noticing that their online activity is flirtatious. You see them commenting on other people’s photos and posts; however, there’s an unsettling vibe when you read them. 

A little too many emojis? Some sexual comments? Yeah, that’s not a good sign and shows a possible issue with commitment.

The conversations have become a drag

You and your partner used to spend hours on the phone talking to your partner. The conversations were deep and fun—you two had a blast. 

But now, it feels more like a chore. Rather than being a highlight of your day, calling your partner feels like another task to complete on your to-do list. If you’re avoiding their calls and texts, that’s a red flag.

You’re happier without them

Maybe you haven’t talked to your partner in a couple of days, and you feel great! Sure, they cross your mind every now and then, but you’re not missing them. 

Of course, the distance could be pushing these feelings, but if you’ve seen them in person and still have these feelings, then perhaps the relationship has come to an end. 

How to deal with relationship red flags

After looking through this list of red flags in a long-distance relationship, you may have noticed some of these signs in your relationship. Now you’re wondering how you’re going to deal with long-distance relationship red flags in your relationship.

You don’t necessarily need to break up with your partner, but it’s time you talked about what’s bothering you with your partner. Red flags don’t necessarily mean the relationship is dead, but it’s a warning sign that something needs to change.

Sit down (virtually) with your partner and talk with them about how you’re feeling. See if they want to work on the relationship. And from this chat, you’ll see what you need to do next.


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