Through relationship writing, I’ve learned a lot. However, much of my knowledge comes from first-hand experience – there are just some things that relationship writing can’t teach you!
I’ve been in two long-distance relationships; one didn’t last, and the other grew into the relationship I’m in today. My first relationship failed for a couple of reasons: we weren’t a good match, we didn’t share the same goals, and a majority of the work was placed on my shoulders to make the relationship work.
Eventually, there came a point where I realized it wasn’t going to work out. I didn’t end the relationship, though. I was scared and insecure. So, I kept pushing, knowing fully that in the end, it would all come crashing down. And it did.
The signs you’re going to read come from my personal and relationship writing experience.
If you notice more than two or three signs in your relationship, take the time to reflect and see if this relationship is what you need. Here are some of the problems with long-distance relationships that may suggest it’s time to end your relationship and move on.
If you’re reading this, you’re already having doubts about your relationship. But having doubts doesn’t mean things need to come to an end. Like all relationships, there are problems with long-distance relationships that you can work through, if you both want to.
However, it’s important to identify is the problems are fixable or are signs that your relationship has run its course. Here are the top 10 signs that you may want to call it quits and move on.
Usually, you and your partner have a routine for when you both talk to each other, whether it be on Skype, WhatsApp, or Facetime. The point is, you two put in the effort to talk to each other and stay connected. This is a healthy and normal way to keep your relationship going – communication is key, after all.
However, things have taken a turn. Your or your partner stop replying quickly to messages, miss phone dates, and have drifted apart. When you two do talk, the conversations are short and shallow.
This is a serious sign of an underlying issue in your relationship. Are you uninterested in the relationship? Is your partner seeking connection in their city? What’s going on?
Talking about and planning for the future is a huge part of a long-distance relationship. While you may have problems in your long-distance relationship, you both work through them to reach the final goal: being together in the same space.
However, any discussion about the future is now avoided. You two don’t talk about what you’re going to see each other or how you’re going to close the gap.
And if you’re not planning to see each other, that’s a sign something is wrong. What’s going on?
Intimacy is a major problem with long-distance relationships, which is why many end with cheating. While I don’t condone cheating, I understand it’s not easy, especially if you haven’t seen your partner for several months.
However, through my relationship writing, I’ve learned many couples find unique ways to keep the flame alive, including using long-distance sex toys and apps.
If the intimacy in your long-distance relationship has come to an end, something is wrong. Where did the passion and chemistry suddenly disappear?
Ouch. Well, if you feel this, then it’s pretty clear on the future of your relationship.
If you’re fully invested in your relationship, you happily give your time and money into making it work. It makes sense, right?
But if you’d rather spend your money on a new pair of jeans or a new car, perhaps you should rethink your priorities. The same goes for your partner – if they don’t want to invest in the relationship, that’s a red flag.
You used to feel invincible next to your partner, like you could accomplish anything with them by your side.
But that feeling has changed. Now, this feeling can occur due to other reasons; if you’re under stress with work or other aspects of your life, can change these feelings.
However, no matter the distance, you always feel your partner has your back, no matter what. But that’s not what you’re feeling now. They aren’t as supportive or taking an interest in your life, and you’re feeling pushed to the side.
While I get the lack of intimacy is hard and a major problem with long-distance relationships, that’s no excuse to cheat on your partner.
Instead of talking to them about your struggles and finding a solution, you’ve cheated on your partner. While the relationship can potentially survive, the distance adds another challenge once the trust has been broken.
Deep in your soul, you know it’s not going to work out. While you’ve been doing whatever you can to make it work, you know it won’t.
Now, we all have doubts; however, this pessimism increases your negative thoughts which can prevent you two from moving forward with your goals and dreams.
You know all their friends. All of them. But suddenly, new people are starting to come up into conversation, and you have no idea who they are.
Or maybe you’re the one meeting knew people. Now, there’s nothing wrong with making a new friend, but who are they? Is this new friend platonic? Or are there hidden feelings?
Of course, you don’t have to have pictures of your partner plastered everywhere on your social media and vice versa.
However, you’re making a conscious effort not to show them on your social media – why? Is it because you want your relationship private, or are you trying to hide them?
You’re doing all the work – literally. You call your partner, you book the plane ticket to see them, and you’re planning for the future. It sounds like a lot of you doing the work, but where is your partner?
For a long-distance relationship to work, it needs to be a two-way street with both partners invested in the relationship.
Now that you’ve gone through the signs, what do you think? Has your relationship reached its end, or do you and your partner need to sort out some issues?
If you want to increase intimacy and connection in the boudoir, here’s what you need to do.
So, if you’re reading this, there’s a chance that you’re not feeling good about your relationship. If you’re asking yourself, is my relationship toxic? It’s time to know the signs. Here are the signs of a toxic relationship.
You’ve met someone that you’re sure is the one. Now, I’m not going to tell you you’re wrong. I don’t even know you! But here’s the thing, are they really the one? Here’s how to know if you met the one.
Rather than asking are rough patches in a relationship normal, what you should be asking yourself is what’s causing them and how to overcome those rough patches.
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