What Nobody Tells You About Long-Distance Relationships

When I started my long-distance relationship with Nate, I didn’t really know what I was getting myself into. I was in love and knew I wanted to be with Nate, but I didn’t realize how much I needed to put into the relationship. 

Most of us know that long-distance relationships are tough, but unless you’re in one, you have no idea. This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t go into a long-distance relationship. If you feel there’s a strong connection, then why not give it a try?

But it’s important to be aware of the challenges you will face along the way—because there will be some challenges that you’re not necessarily prepared for. 

Jealousy is a thing

Even if you’re normally not a jealous person, a long-distance relationship may bring out those small insecurities. 

Your partner is in another country or city and you’re not sure what they’re doing with their time. It’s normal. 

To get over those experiences, you need to communicate with your partner and trust them. You’re going to have moments of insecurity, that’s normal. But what you need to do is talk to your partner about how you’re feeling and work through those issues together. 

Misunderstandings happen easily

When you’re in a long-distance relationship, misunderstandings can happen and they do happen. 

While texting is a great way to stay connected, leave any heavy conversations for Skype or phone dates. It’s easy to misread your partner’s tone via text. 

So, rule of thumb: don’t text during serious conversations.

Reuniting can feel awkward

I always thought reuniting with Nate would be like in the movies. We would embrace and make out in the middle of the airport, chemistry flying into the air.

But in reality, it always ended up being a little awkward. We hadn’t seen each other for months and when we reunited, we needed a couple of days to get used to each other again. 

Sure, you may experience this intense passion and chemistry when you see each other, but more often than not, it’s going to feel like a first date. 

You're going to be given a lot of (un-solicited) advice

People love giving advice, and when it comes to long-distance relationships, people always have something to say. Trust me, they always have something to say.

Though advice can be helpful from people who’ve gone through the same experience as you. 

Most people will tell you:

“It’ll get easier.”

“Long-distance relationships never work out, so don’t waste your time.”

“Don’t put all your eggs in one basket.”

You need to keep in mind that everyone has their own personal experiences which forms their advice. If someone’s relationship failed, then they may provide you more negative advice. 

Point is, take people’s advice with a grain of salt. At the end of the day, focus on what feels right for you. 

It's an emotional rollercoaster

One day you’re blissfully in love; the next day, you’re crying in your bed, missing them. What can I say? Long-distance relationships test your emotions.

Don’t even get me started on saying goodbye at the airport! You’ll need some Kleenex, that’s for sure. Long-distance relationships can make you feel like you’re on an emotional rollercoaster, and it makes sense. Being separated from your partner isn’t easy, especially during the moments when you need them most. 

You're going to be judged by many

Though long-distance relationships are more common than you may think, they’re not a fan-favorite. People are always going to comment on your relationship, and usually not for the best. 

But that’s okay. Let them judge. What’s important is you stay focused on your relationship and closing the gap. You’re the only one who knows the feelings, the love, and the connection you share with your partner. 

And let’s be honest, most people who judge are projecting their experiences onto you—ignore them and keep pushing forward.

Who said long-distance relationship were easy? They’re not! But don’t let these challenges get in your way of being with the one you love. 


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