Oh, have I made mistakes in my long-distance relationships. And here’s the thing: I didn’t know that these were common mistakes made in long-distance relationships.
Yes, I thought I was so special, like I was only experiencing these problems. Ah, to be young and in your twenties (insert dramatic music here).
But seriously, if you’re in a long-distance relationship, the odds are this is your first time going through something like this.
And if it is, then it’s important you know the common mistakes made in long-distance relationships and how to avoid them.
Long-distance relationships are hard enough as it is; you don’t need the added stress of these common mistakes.
So it’s time you have a head’s up on the most common mistakes made in long-distance relationships so that you can avoid them.
While it’s a thought that crosses everyone’s mind now and then, if you go into a relationship thinking it will fail, it will.
If you want to make this relationship work, you need to give it your all and have confidence that you two will work together to make it work.
If you’re on the fence and aren’t sure about the relationship, then maybe you need to start thinking if this is something you want to actually invest your time in. Do you really want this?
Of course, it’s hard when your partner lives away from you. And naturally, you’re scared about them cheating. I get it. But if you don’t trust your partner, this relationship is going to go sour, fast.
Trust is the foundation of any healthy relationship and when it comes to long-distance relationships, it’s crucial.
Talk about your feelings around trust and see how you two can work together to make each other feel safe.
When I was in a long-distance relationship, we spoke all the time. Like, all the time. I thought that it was something we needed to do to keep the relationship going.
But in reality, there were so many days when we had nothing to talk about. And that’s normal.
You don’t need to talk to your partner all day, every day. Allow yourself some space apart. Live your life. I know it’s hard to be separated, but this insecurity isn’t bringing you two closer together, it’s just filling the space.
Long-distance relationships are tough. We’re not physically near our partners, so sometimes our needs aren’t being met. And instead of bringing it up during a conversation, we want to enjoy the time with our partner.
But you have needs. It’s something you can’t avoid.
If you’re feeling you need more attention, more intimacy – tell your partner. Work on solving this together.
When I was in a long-distance relationship, I remember literally putting my life on the side for my partner.
I wouldn’t go out with my friends, I would avoid parties – I was just working and going to school. That was it.
I essentially froze avoided fun experiences, even though I trusted myself. I was so heavily invested in my relationship, I sacrificed having fun.
Don’t do that. Don’t put your life on hold. If you want to go to school, go to school. If you want to travel, travel. Do things for yourself.
When we’re in a long-distance relationship, we focus on the main events that are happening. For example, if you booked a flight to see your partner, that’s probably the main thing you’re going to talk about until the day comes.
But you and your partner have a life. You know, things happen every day – don’t push that aside.
A common mistake couples make is only focusing on the big things, while ignoring the small everyday experiences they go through.
Do you want to spend the rest of your life talking to your partner via Zoom or Skype? Of course, you don’t. You’re not in a long-distance relationship because you like the distance.
You want to eventually close the gap and be with your partner in a regular relationship.
However, a common mistake couples make is not creating an end goal together. You two need to work towards something, you need to see there’s light at the end of the tunnel.
Have an end goal. Whether it’s you moving to them or vice versa, you both need to know what you’re working for.
Long-distance relationships are hard, hence why people try to avoid them. But if you’re in one, then there’s a reason why. You and your partner see potential for this relationship.
If you’re experiencing these common mistakes made in long-distance relationships, it’s time to talk to your partner about them. And if that’s a challenge, perhaps you should consider a relationship counseling service to get you two on the right track.
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