When you have a question about common sex myths, where do you turn? To Google, of course. When it comes to intimacy in a relationship, most of us learn as we go or seek help from intimacy counselling or the world wide web – and there’s nothing wrong with that.
But by looking at various sources, it’s easy to get overwhelmed and unsure what’s right and wrong. This mushes a lot of information together, blurring the lines and creating even more confusion than before (let’s be honest, there’s a lot of confusion when it comes to sex and intimacy).
So now it’s time to straighten things out and get to the truth. Once we clear up the lies, we can actually start understanding intimacy and accepting it as a normal part of life (because that’s what it is).
Myth 1 – Vaginal penetration is the key to female orgasm
Did you know that most women don’t orgasm via vaginal penetration? This doesn’t mean it doesn’t feel good – it does. However, for most women, it doesn’t do the trick.
Between 70 percent to 90 percent of women are unable to achieve orgasm through vaginal penetration – yeah, those are some high numbers.
For women who claim to achieve orgasm, most need to be on top. Do you know what that means? When the woman is on top, she’s grinding her clitoris against her partner’s abdomen, which means she’s orgasming via clitoral stimulation.
Nine out of 10 women have had an orgasm during her life, but most needed clitoral stimulation. In other words, clitoral stimulation is the key to achieving orgasm.
This doesn’t mean you should ditch the vaginal penetration, but it does mean you need to add clitoral stimulation into the mix. You can stimulate the clitoris via your hand, sex toy, or sex position.
But remember, no two women share the same sexual needs and desires. So, it’ll take some time for you to find out what works for you.
Myth 2 – women don’t like masturbating as much as men
This is one of those common sex myths that I can’t stand. This mentality is extremely outdated and used to fuel the idea that women are less sexually inclined than men, which, as we all know, isn’t true.
Throughout the years, in media especially, it’s been depicted that men masturbate all the time (which isn’t true). However, that pushes the notion that men are highly sexual where women are not.
The subject of female masturbation has been taboo for so long, it was largely assumed that women have low sex drives and aren’t interested in self-pleasure.
Self-pleasure is entirely normal and a great sign of a healthy sex life. If it’s something you enjoy doing, then make time for it. Masturbation is healthy!
Myth 3 – women who enjoy sex are sluts
Honestly, when it comes to common sex myths, I can’t believe this is still a thing. So, let’s clear this up right now.
If you’re a woman who enjoys having sex, you’re not a slut. Do you know what you are? You’re a woman who enjoys sexual pleasure, and that’s perfectly normal and healthy.
As long as the sex you’re having isn’t to fill a void, and it’s consensual, then why not have sex? Life is too short to stop yourself from receiving the pleasure you deserve.
Discover what turns you on, explore your sexuality, and live life the way you want to live it.
Oh, these aren’t the only common sex myths out there. But they are the most important ones that need debunking.
These myths continue to push old notions about sex and prevent men and women from achieving genuine intimacy and sexual satisfaction.