You’ve heard the saying, “opposites attract,” but do they really? Naturally, we tend to gravitate to people who are similar to us, but there’s no textbook when it comes to attraction. Your partner may be the complete opposite of you, but that doesn’t mean the relationship is doomed. Even if you and your partner are opposites, it’s possible for you two to have a healthy and happy relationship.
Opposites Attract: 4 Things To Do To Bridge The Gap
If you really want to make it work with your opposite, here are some things you need to do.
Share core values
You two may be opposites in many things, but if you two share the same core values, then the rest you can compromise on. How do you two value family? Do you both want children? What are your views on religion? These are important to many people. If you’re both on the same page on these core values, then the rest can be worked on.
Be open to compromising
Whether you’re opposites or not, relationships are all about compromises. You can’t have everything your way in a relationship, and neither can they. Talk with your partner and see what’s important to them and what they’re willing to change. And together, you’ll need to work out what your future will look like. Will any of you get exactly what you want? No. But that’s life.
Try each other’s interests
Opposites attract, and if you want to make it work, then why don’t you try things that your partner likes to do. If they’re sporty, do something athletic with them. If you’re someone who loves music, take your partner to your favorite band. It doesn’t mean you two are going to love each other’s interests, but you’ll get an appreciation for what they like and vice versa. Who knows, maybe you two will discover a mutual interest along the way.
Get ready for change
Listen, in any relationship, change is going to happen. Even if you two are similar, you will always need to make adjustments in your relationship. Change is a natural part of being in a relationship. Of course, this doesn’t mean you should change who you are. But if you two want to be together, there will need to be some changes that’ll work for both of you.
Being with someone who’s the complete opposite of you isn’t easy. But just because there’s this idea that opposites attract but can’t be in relationships, doesn’t mean it’s true. But if you follow these tips, it’ll help you have a successful relationship.