Long-distance relationships aren’t a walk in the park. If you’re in an LDR, you know exactly what I mean. There’s a lot of highs and lows, lonely nights, and countdowns until you see your partner once again. It’s really an emotional rollercoaster. Before you make the move, there are some questions to ask yourself before moving abroad.
I can’t say it’s something you should avoid doing. If you meet someone overseas, there’s no reason why you shouldn’t try to make things work. But, before you make any big steps and move abroad for love, you need to ask yourself a couple of important questions.
Why am I saying this? Well, I didn’t ask myself any questions before making a move to Nate’s country. I followed my heart and dove right into things. And it was only once I had made the move that I started to realize what I had just done.
4 Questions to Ask Yourself Before Moving Abroad For Love
Moving overseas for your partner is very brave, but you need to make sure it’s the right move for you. Here are the most important questions to ask yourself before moving abroad for love.
Who am I?
I know this sounds a little hippy, but it’s a question you really need to ask yourself. Before moving to a new country, you need to understand who you are. Since you’re moving to a new country, the odds are you won’t have any friends or family around for support.
It’s easy to get sucked into your relationship when in a new country and forget yourself in the process. Knowing who you are and what you like to do will help you adjust to your new space.
Can I financially support myself?
Do you have money to support yourself in your partner’s country? If you want to go back home, do you have money put on the side? Moving to be with your partner is great, but having to rely on them for everything financially isn’t fun.
You will be relying on your partner for a lot of things, especially if you don’t speak the local language. Having to financially rely on your partner on top of living in a new country isn’t a great feeling. Always have some money in the bank for yourself.
Did I do my research on my partner’s country?
What is the country like? What are the customs and traditions? You’re going to a completely new country. And you may have been there a couple of times, but visiting and living are completely different things. Research your partner’s country to get a sense of what you’ll be getting yourself into. Also, learn some basics with the local language – it’ll make a huge difference.
Is this really the right move for me?
I know you want to make it work. You invested a lot of time and energy into the relationship, but that doesn’t mean it’s the right move for you. You have your own needs and desires, and that may not interline with moving to your partner’s country. And that’s okay.
If that’s the case, talk to your partner and see if there’s something else you two can do. Maybe the relationship isn’t necessarily what you need right now.
Ah, the beauty of love. Isn’t it just great? Listen, your long-distance relationship can work out. But before you jump right in, make sure you think about these questions to ask yourself before moving abroad.