We’ve all been on a disaster date…or…two…or three. Well, at least I have.
I went on one date where, as we were sitting for coffee, he told me, “you’re a little fat, but that’s okay. It’s good for when I f*ck you.”
Yup. I was in shock. I didn’t know what to say. In fact, I didn’t say anything; I didn’t get up and leave. I didn’t know what to do.
So, I continued with the date. Aside from being insulted two minutes into the date, there was no connection, nothing. I’m pretty sure any hope of connection was killed the moment he opened his mouth.
Years later, I know exactly what I would do if in that position now. I would have stopped the date, maybe said a couple of enlightened words, and gone home.
After that date, he would continue to message me, asking if I wanted to “go for a drink” or “hang out at his place.” And instead of saying I’m not interested, I’d come up with every excuse in the book. It took weeks until his texts tapered off into the sunset, never to be received again.
Let’s be honest; it didn’t have to end that way.
Now, not all of us have that kind of bad date. Many bad dates are coming from a lack of connection or being polar opposites from one another.
So, how do you end a disaster date? How do you end a date with someone you pray you’ll never have to see again?
How to End a Disaster Date
You’re at the end of the date and the time has come to part ways. You couldn’t be more excited to never see this person again. And yet, they ask you the one question you were trying to avoid, “I’m going to call you, let’s do this again.”
No! No! No! You don’t want again. You want radio silence from them. You want your number deleted from their phone.
So what do you say? Well, here’s how you should end a disaster date.
#1 Don’t lie.
Oh yes! We should totally do it again, I had such a great time! No, you didn’t. Every word out of your mouth right now is a lie.
Why are you lying? Because you don’t want to come off as rude? You don’t want to hurt their feelings? Let’s be honest, who’s the one hurting here? You are.
If you have no intention of seeing this person again, then don’t say you want to. Nothing bad will happen by you saying you’re not interested in seeing them again. You know what will happen? You’ll both move on.
#2 Don’t continue the date.
I’ve had this experience before. I went on a date with a guy, didn’t feel the connection and when he asked if I wanted to continue the date, I said no. It was the best decision I could have made. I wasn’t interested, so why waste more time?
If you don’t want to continue the date, then don’t continue it. Don’t suggest going for drinks or seeing the dessert menu.
Your goal should be to leave the date asap. You can say something like, “I need to get home, it was nice to meet you.”
There, that’s it. Only spend time with someone you want to spend time with.
#3 Don’t sleep with them.
Oh, don’t do it. Of course, if this was for a hookup, then fine. But if you’re not interested in this person, sleeping with them will only blur the lines.
Follow the above tips and walk away. Don’t let your genitals take the best of you and create a situation you’ll later regret.
Unless it’s very clear that you two are only interested in having sex, sleeping with them is not giving them the “I’m not interested” vibe.
What can I say? You have and will encounter bad dates. I have – I wouldn’t have gone into dating writing if I didn’t! These are things you can’t foresee.
But you can end a disaster date maturely and move on feeling good about the situation.