We tend to think once we have a partner, it’s all good from there. The sex is good, you feel good with them, and that’s all you need. Who needs love making tips? We’re good.
However, love making changes with time, it evolves and it’s something you need to work on. While you may have had amazing sex with your partner in the beginning of your relationship, things change. Maybe you had a couple of kids or are stressed at work – these factors affect the intimacy with your partner.
If I compare the intimacy in my own relationship, while we still are passionate and attracted to one another, it’s changed over time. This isn’t a bad thing; in fact, we’re more connected than ever. However, it does mean we need to incorporate new techniques to continue learning about each other.
Being open to communicating with your partner and learning new techniques can evolve your love making. So, here are three love making tips to help you take your intimacy to the next level.
1. Edging Orgasm
You’ve probably read a bunch of love making tips, suggesting all types of different things. While it’s not necessarily a bad thing, the more options you have, the overwhelming it can feel.
However, this is one love making tip you should consider.
‘Orgasm Edging‘ is something you can try alone or with your partner. Now, this isn’t a new discovery, people have been doing this for years – and there’s a reason why.
This practice is designed to delay pleasure and intensify your orgasm.
You either bring yourself or your partner just to the edge of orgasm and then stop. Yes, you stop. If you’re doing this to yourself, it’s not going to be an easy move to make. Naturally, you’re going to want to orgasm.
However, once you stop pleasuring yourself, you’re going to focus on your breathing and calm yourself down. Once you’re ready, begin to pleasure yourself again, bringing yourself to the edge of orgasm. You can either let go and orgasm, or stop again and repeat from the beginning.
2. Erotic/Dirty Talk
If you’ve attended intimacy counselling, then you’re well aware of the power of erotic talk. And if this is something new for you, well, I think, out of all the love making tips on this list, if you like talking, this may be the easiest for you to try.
Words are powerful. They can turn us on; they can turn us off. When your partner expresses their desire for you through words, it’s sexy.
Erotic or dirty talk is often portrayed as very explicit and overtly sexual phrases and sayings to arouse your partner. However, that’s a misconception because erotic talk doesn’t need to be literal.
Talking dirty to your partner can simply be you saying it feels good or telling your partner what you want them to do to you next. The beauty of dirty talk is that you decide what it means to you.
Of course, remember dirty talk is something that includes your partner, so you need to make sure they feel comfortable as well. Talk to your partner beforehand and see what talking dirty means to them.
3. Sensual Massage
Let’s be honest here, who doesn’t like a massage? Out of these love making tips, I like this one the most. A sensual massage is an amazing way to connect with your partner and discover more about their body.
During intimacy, we love to touch each other. But what makes you a connected lover is someone who knows how to touch and where to touch. This knowledge comes from learning about your partner and what makes them tick.
If you’re going through a dry spell with your partner, a sensual massage is a great way to bring back the intimacy between you two.
You can use warming oil or simply coconut oil from your kitchen. You don’t need too much preparation; you just need to be present in the moment with your partner.
There are so many love making tips out there that it can feel a bit much. You don’t need 1000 ways to pleasure your partner. You need a couple of new techniques that will heighten your sexual experience with your partner and take your intimacy to a new level.
Whether it’s edging orgasm, erotic talk, or sensual massage, give these techniques a try and see which ones work for you and your partner. Remember, there’s no one-size-fits-all approach – which is what makes relationships so interesting and fun!