If there’s one thing I’ve learned with relationship writing, there seems to be a disconnect with what men believe pleasures women.
I’ve spent hours writing articles on how to pleasure a woman and the techniques you should do. But at the end of the day, it’s not as complicated as we make it out to be.
In fact, a lot of relationship writing is just fluff. However, it’s time for you to really understand how to pleasure your woman every day. Yeah, every. Single. Day. Oh, and I know what you’re thinking – no, it’s not impossible.
You may be sitting on your couch, scrolling through this, thinking to yourself, okay, but how can I pleasure my woman every single day?
I must admit, as a woman, I know we’re not the easiest to please. Plus, for women, achieving pleasure in the bedroom can be a serious challenge. Why is everything so hard for us? Okay, I’ll stop before I go on a rant.
If you’re reading this, you want to pleasure your woman, and honestly, that’s the first step. If the desire to pleasure your woman is there, you can do it. What I’m going to be talking about is applicable to both men and women who want to pleasure their women.
I know you’re probably thinking, well, this is easy, but being present is an art form. It’s hard to be present. We’re living in a fast-paced world where we’re connected to everything.
However, presence doesn’t start with the outside world, it beings within yourself. If you want to be present with your partner, you need to acknowledge how present you are with yourself first.
Women love a present partner. We want our partners to be in the moment during sex and intimacy, enjoying each other’s connection and bodies.
Put your phone away. Turn off the tv. Turn off your Spotify “sexy time” playlist. It’s just you and your partner.
Look into each other’s eyes, letting each other know that you’re both here, together. Feel her body, explore her body, not only with your hands, but with your eyes as well. Let her feel that you’re in the moment, enjoying every inch of her.
We want our partner to have an orgasm. Not only does it show they’re experiencing pleasure, but it shows that we gave them ultimate pleasure.
And listen, I, myself, am guilty of relationship writing about how to achieve a ‘mindblowing orgasm,’ and while that information is useful, intimacy isn’t only about orgasm.
Intense and deep pleasure can be attained without orgasm.
So, stop with the thought that your partner needs to achieve an orgasm to receive pleasure. If this is your only goal, you’re not going to be present. Instead, you’ll only be focused on the end goal – and that’s no fun for anyone, including yourself. Explore her body, enjoy her body, be in the moment.
Now, you may be thinking to yourself, but what’s the point if she doesn’t cum? The purpose of sex isn’t solely to orgasm, it’s to intimately connect with her. Sex with your woman should be a journey, not a race.
What happens after you have sex? If there’s one thing I’ve learned from relationship writing it’s that most men finish, remove the condom and go have a shower. And that’s the end of it.
This quickness to move on can be really annoying for women. Now, having a quickie is all fine and good, but when you make intense love with your woman, take the time to lay next to her afterward.
Be present in the moment, cuddle, talk about it. When she’s ready to move forward with her day, she’ll let you know.
While you may have read 1000 Ways to Make Your Woman Orgasm, it’s time to take a step back and start with the basics.
While relationship writing can give you all the tips you want, it really comes down to you putting them into practice.
Try these tips out and focus on genuinely being with your woman. By doing this, you’ll notice your intimacy and connection deepen with time.
And most importantly, remember intimacy and sex isn’t a race to the finish line. The intimacy you share with your woman is a journey, so allow yourself to bask in it.
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