If you live with your partner, you see them everyday. They’re the first person you see in the morning and the last person you see before going to sleep. Yes, you see them a lot, but that doesn’t mean you’re spending enough quality time together. Wait, watching the football game isn’t quality time? Not exactly. Before we jump ahead, what is quality time?
Throughout my counselling relationship experience, I discovered some helpful ways to spend quality time together.
What is quality time?
Quality time means spending time with your partner without any distractions. It’s a chance for you to bond with your partner, build emotional intimacy, and work on relationship problems and solutions.
While quality time is about communication, it’s also about physically expressing love to your partner via hand-holding, cuddling, kissing, and caressing. As the studies show, physical affection boosts partner satisfaction.
So how do you spend quality time together? I’m about to give you some ideas.
Know the signs that you need more quality time
Do you and your partner need to spend more quality time together? If you want a healthy relationship, this is a good place to start. But to know if more quality time is needed, you need to recognize the signs.
A need for quality time can look like:
- You’re always on your phone
- You don’t make any plans with your partner
- You value your friends, hobbies, or job over quality time with your partner
- You’re not together during important events
- You’ve considered attending counselling relationship
- You’re not happy in your current relationship
Try new things together
I bet there are probably some activities that you’re interested in trying out. Maybe you want to learn a new language or take up a sport. Why not try doing something new with your partner? Exploring new activities together can help build a healthy relationship along with working on relationship problems and solutions.
Now you don’t need to do this forever. But schedule some time, daily, if possible, where you put your phone and all other electronic devices away. During that time, spend it talking with your partner. Studies show that being on your phone while your partner is around can lower relationship satisfaction and increase the chance of depression.
Have regular date nights
When was the last time you went on a date with your partner? Couples experience more happiness and less stress when they spend quality time together. So, make it a routine for you and your partner to go on date night. Now, don’t spend that time talking about relationship problems and solutions; instead, focus on letting loose and having a good time.
The National Marriage Project found that a weekly date night makes relationships more exciting and prevents boredom. It also improves your sex life as well—(did you need a better reason than that?)
Break a sweat together
You know the saying, couples that sweat together, stay together. Okay, I’m not sure if that’s a saying, but you get where I’m going with this. Playing sports together or working out at the gym next to one another can be a bonding experience. Plus, exercise has a very positive effect on your sex life. So, it’s a win-win for everyone.